Signed Jayden Up for Soccer

I went today and signed Jayden up for soccer. I had to answer questions about our last name, of course. I'm still getting used to that. When I got married, for some bizarre reason that I try to explain on my feminist blog, I changed my last name to Rhoades, which is Brian's last name. Last November, I changed my name back to Brown.

We still have to change the children's names officially to Rhoades-Brown from just Rhoades. I decided to put Rhoades-Brown down as Jayden's last name for the soccer team, just to make it easier for when we make the final (legal) transition. So, then I have to answer questions about what name to put us under. Are Jayden's parents married? Yep. But you have different last names? Yep. What do we do for your family name? Don't care. You can go with Rhoades-Brown.

Truthfully I don't mind the questions because I hope it can challenge some people's opinions about marriage and naming and all of those reasons for making the change in the first place.

What I still struggle with is that Brian and I have different last names. I'd prefer that we all had "Rhoades-Brown" for our last names, but we don't. Brian didn't want to change his last name. He wanted to go for a more "subversive" plan of looking like the enemy and then changing them from within.

I disagree with this political philosophy, but it's a small difference overall. So I honor his feelings on it, and we continue with different last names.

Back to Jayden's soccer sign-up...I suppose I'm now officially a soccer mom. I can't wait until practice starts.